As reported by the Huffington Post, after a Oswalt’s Twitter announcement of his engagement to actress Meredith Salenger, there was a smattering of criticism from the public, arguing that it was too soon for him to move on.He and Salenger had been dating for three months before they made the decision to tie the knot.Grief counselors generally recommend a period of mourning, but the amount of time is ultimately up to you.Although some say you'll need a year that may be different if your spouse was sick for a long time before his death.And is it fair that a griever has to cope with this tremendous grief while also answering questions from family and friends about whether they plan to date again?Or is it fair that a griever may face judgement from those who think that they aren’t ready to date or believe they shouldn’t? Just as every person is unique, so is their reaction to the losses they face.
Or of being rushed into something we’re not ready for?
Blogger Erica Roman, also a widow, stood up for Oswalt in a post that went viral.
Roman shot back at the negative social media posts against Oswalt, writing that it’s intrusive of the public to pass judgement on whether someone moves on after a spouse dies.
There are quite a few questions about various etiquette rules related to being widowed. Although there are social standards, remember that you have to do what you're comfortable with.
Many of your decisions will be based on your age, how long you were married before your spouse passed, and your religious practices.