If you really love him, it's not the guy, it's the sex. If he makes your workdays uncomfortable with inappropriate advances, if he exacts retribution because you cut it off, if he shares those photos with co-workers, or if he blocks your advancement, that's harassment. If not, brush up on the info (or call one of the hotlines) here. What doesn't kill a relationship can make it stronger, I suppose. ) The most important thing is that you end the behavior and figure out why you're doing these self-destructive things rather than facing your problems head-on.
I still want to be with him and stay together for a long time, but I just want to get one hookup in while I'm young. Is it OK to just have one hookup, or should I just keep all these fantasies to myself? Who doesn't want to sleep with that stranger who caught your eye on the street? Mutual monogamy is the ultimate proof of the golden rule: When you think about stepping out on someone, it doesn't seem like such a big deal. If you cheat on your guy, you may ruin the relationship.You don't have to tell him you're "bored" — in fact, don't. My paradoxical pals say they'd like to know if a girlfriend was sexting (even if it was just in good fun), but they also say that they'd freak out if their girlfriends did this, and probably wouldn't be able to forgive them — even if they, themselves, would totally love to be on the receiving side of some colleague's hot pictures. It's also a pragmatic (unethical) reason (excuse) for lying.But you could tell him about all those things you fantasize about doing with someone else — and then try them out with the guy you love. The cost of lying is the guilt you'll carry and the secrets you'll keep, both of which may push you and your boyfriend further apart.I would feel so guilty, but with him I'm getting so bored. Who doesn't flip through Tinder and think, "Maybe…"? You could tell him you want an open relationship or "a break," but almost every couple that has that chat ends up broken. What seems like easy way out of this — being too nice to him — is actually the hard way, because it will only lead to more trouble when he doesn't get the message. Tell him that you now realize it was an inappropriate mistake and you want your relationship to be professional from now on. You don't owe him a lengthy explanation — you were baring your boobs, not your heart.Your fantasy fling sounds so fun and simple: just one wild fantasy roll in the hay. So don't half-ass this: Don't cheat on him, and don't pretend that some temporary "open arrangement" might work, because, odds are, it won't. After a little flirting, most guys aren't receptive to subtlety. You can't tell him you're confused, even if you are. Any long conversation would inevitably lead to some confusion, and we want no ambiguity. If he's like any guy I know, he's going to be furious at first.